This is a deadly question to ask someone you’re dating. Whatever he says will be wrong. If he’s had fewer than you think is appropriate, you’ll think he’s inexperienced. If he’s had more — perhaps way more — than you think is acceptable, you’ll think he’s a slut.And what if he asks you? Same problem. There is no way to answer this early in the relationship without some judgment being made, until you’ve been together for a while and can share this information without fear of judgment.

At a party yesterday, a midlife, never-married woman shared she’d had 60 lovers. Some of the rest of us couldn’t remember the count, as some were long ago in college. She had made a list.

Does it matter how many notches are on your bedpost? People assume that the more lovers you’ve had, the more experienced you are at various ways to please your partner. What if you had only one or two but learned a lot?

My suggestion: Don’t ask, don’t tell. If your date asks you, skirt around it with something like, “Enough to know how to make my partner happy.” That could apply even if there was only one.

What do you think of this question? How have you responded when asked? And if you’ve been the one asking, what did you think when you heard his number?

A Bosnian couple are getting divorced after finding out they had been secretly chatting each other up online under fake names.

Sana Klaric, 27, and husband Adnan, 32, from Zenica, poured out their hearts to each other over their marriage troubles, and both felt they had found their real soul mate.

The couple met on an online chat forum while he was at work and she in an internet cafe, and started chatting under the names Sweetie and Prince of Joy.

They eventually decided to meet up - but there was no happy ending when they realised what had happened.

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It is very common for couples who are married for quite some time to feel that sex is no longer an enjoyable activity but a routine. So how can couples spice up their sex after marriage?

One of the best ways to spice up your sex is to try out the different exciting adult games with your spouse. Good adult games can prolong your foreplay which is definitely a must if you and your spouse want to experience a better love making session.

Good adult games can entice your spouse to the breaking points. Let me just share with you 3 exotic adult games that you can try out with your spouse in the bedroom tonight:

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A survey of over 1000 people has found that women place more emphasis on kissing in relationships. The study by the State University of New York found that women use kissing as a way to assess a potential partner, to maintain intimacy and also as a way of checking on the status of a relationship. They found that men were less discriminating when it came to deciding who to kiss and when. Males were more likely to have sex without kissing or to hook up with a bad kisser. They also preferred tongue kissing. For women, kissing is seen as a bonding and testing mechanism… This is an excerpt from the Sex News column. Every month For The Girls does a round up of the latest research, surveys, bizarre stories and sex-related news.

1. Sex could be the ultimate de-stresser
New research shows that, “Penetrative sex is associated with better psychological functions,” according to psychologist Dr Stuart Brody. In one study,”Men and women who had intercourse had a better stress response,” says Dr Brody, who accounted for dozens of variables, including how satisfied the subjects were in their relationships.

Guess that athlete ritual of abstinence before a big game is hogwash. (Could this be the answer for SA’s sporting heroes?) But before you hop into the sack to prepare for a big meeting, know this: least-stressed subjects had penetrative sex and abstained from other sexual activity, including masturbation and oral sex. There’s always a catch, isn’t there?

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My wife and I are swingers and have been using the married personals section on various dating sites for 2 years now. What I want to do is share with you what we have learned thus far. When you arrange sexual encounters with married people, whether you are married or not, these tips will help make your experience go smoothly.

Use Anonymity When Meeting Cheaters If the man or women you intend to meet is going to be cheating ensure that you do not give away any details about yourself. Let us say you meet a woman who intends to cheat on her husband. The last thing you want is an angry husband beating down your door.

You should agree to meet at a location where you are not known and in a public place for drinks. Then go back to a motel or hotel room. Do not ever give away your last name, where you work (or what you do for a living), and be careful not to leave your wallet or purse lying around where your ID might be available for prying eyes.

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